We create our own reality

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Key Facts: 
  • We are the ones who decide which life events will be significant
  • Without the involvement of our beliefs and values, an event is just an event
  • Changing how we view an event can be a huge step towards being able to resolve past pain or future struggle

Events are just events...

They have no meaning until we allocate meaning to them.  We do this by filtering our experiences according to our beliefs and values formed from our individual upbringing, together with cultural and social exposures.  Hence we create our own reality based on how we choose to think about what happens in our lives.                                 

The meaning we allocate to an event depends on the frame we put it in.  When we change the frame we change the meaning, and when the meaning changes we alter our behaviour and response.  

In the story about the meaning of events Lottie felt upset about Sarah’s behaviour until another frame – a different perspective or way of thinking – was presented to her.  This opened up the possibility of a different reality, one that was clearly much more helpful to her than her current one.

Being open to alternatives

Reframing isn’t about making everything positive, however, but about providing new options and choices to open up the possibility of different realities and different models of the world around us.  Having more options can provide better opportunities for achieving workable solutions and results, and may shift us into seeing possible advantages to an experience that may at first appear to be problematic.

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